4 Tips To Improve your Marriage and Love Life

Let’s say you’ve been with your partner for such a long time that you wonder where all the fun went. Your job stresses you out, the kids won’t stop making demands, your in-laws say you never visit, laundry is piling up, and dinner needs to be cooked. You are ready to pull your hair out, and the last thing on your mind is intimacy. What happened? Remember when you first met your partner and the first times you enjoyed each other’s company you saw fireworks? What happened. What went wrong?

Sounds like you need to recharge your relationship. Before you complain that there isn’t enough time or your too tired or you’re too old or what will you do with the kids? Please read carefully? Hear me out. Revamp your love life in gradual steps and in no time at all you’ll start enjoying those romps in the hay once again. So pack the kids off to grandma’s. Here are four sexy tips to put the spice back in your love life.

1. Try Any Place But Your Bed

Your bed need not be Ground Zero. If the table feels hard, try a soft couch, jacuzzi or a bath. Broaden your horizons. Expand your horizons! Try the front seat of your car if you drive to a secluded park to watch the stars at night. But don’t ingnore the bed if that’s where you prefer to be. Obviously the sheets need to be clean. Make sure the sheets are clean. Spritz some perfume on the sheets and pillowcases to make your bed even more alluring.

2. Sensory Deprivation

Use these things to your advantage. Use them to your advantage. Having to rely on senses other than sight will enhance your time together. Touch and taste are vitally important to use when enjoying each other’s company. Have some fun by blindfolding your partner and lighting some incense. Your partner will enjoy what he sees and feels after you remove the blindold scarf. Your partner will love the ambience once you remove the blindfold. Don’t forget how important sound is. Turn on some quiet, sexy music or a relaxing nature CD. For added sensations, put a blindfold scarf over your partners eyes and slowly tease and tickle them with a feather. For kicks, make your partner wear the blindfold while you tease and tickle with a feather. The unknown is very sexy.

3. Intimate Massage

Don’t use cheap oils for massages because they clog up your pores and don’t smell anywhere near as good.. Buy some aromatherapy or erotic massage oils and prepare yourself for a very special night. Don’t use cooking oil or baby oil when giving a massage because those oils clog pores and they don’t smell very good. Buy some aromatic oils and get ready for a sensuous night.

Start at the feet and work your way up. Using adult toys will make massage even more sexually exciting. Make sure to massage your partner’s most sensitive areas such as the hips, back, and shoulders. Using sex toys will make massage even more sensuous. Foot and hand massages are very relaxing, and a vibrator on sore feet will relax your partner like never before. Take your time, and don’t rush. If you enjoy a little romance in the bath, buy some waterproof vibrators and commence the massage in the water. Waterproof sex toys If you chose. Once you give your partner a massage, it’s your partner’s turn to treat you. and electric massagers remember to use one’s that are not made of phthalates and latex vibrators and personal massagers remember to chose one’s which don’t contain latex as this could trigger an allergy.

4. The Big “O” Isn’t The Be All And End All

Remember that when it comes to enjoying each other, the trip can be more fun than the destination. Keep your mind in the here and now, and enjoy the scents, touch, and taste of your partner. Take the pressure off of each other by focusing on how good you make each other feel without having to explode in fireworks every time you get down to it.

With these handy tips soon you and your partner will find the zing that had been missing from your love life. With your busy lives you will find it necessary to schedule play dates. Make sure you enjoy regular play time with your partner and experiment with the time that you do have. The sky’s the limit!

Elizabeth Black is a writer who lives on the Massachusetts coast next to the ocean with her husband and four cats.